tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post1688752205889454323..comments2022-11-03T03:58:54.851-07:00Comments on Chitown And All Around: To Spank or Not To Spank?Ashley Mhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05082302440037954381noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-55372184736587183822012-10-15T12:46:07.409-07:002012-10-15T12:46:07.409-07:00ooh i wish my son would just listen to my words ha...ooh i wish my son would just listen to my words haha. i try to hard to speak calmly to him and explain things but he just whines and pouts =pAshley Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01689257066139785285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-67409666451400717202012-10-15T12:41:07.243-07:002012-10-15T12:41:07.243-07:00I was never spanked as a child and don't spank...I was never spanked as a child and don't spank my child. For us it has always worked to explain why. I never spank.. He is 7 and I have put him in timeout three times in his life (all when he was younger).. It has worked for us. At playgroups etc when other kids aren't minding, mine always does. He has never hit another child and listens to me the first time I ask him to do something. We have always taken the time to explain things instead of saying "because I said so" and I think that has made a big difference. This is what works for my family everyone decides the route they take but for us spanking is off the table.Michelle S.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-39788159089623102982012-09-13T11:13:05.887-07:002012-09-13T11:13:05.887-07:00Depends. Sometimes corporal punishment is the only...Depends. Sometimes corporal punishment is the only thing that works. Example. Ground my daughter she will act right. Ground my son and he develops a case of smart mouth.Spank him and he is straight for about 90 days.Candacenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-1608364360249038632012-09-12T15:06:35.860-07:002012-09-12T15:06:35.860-07:00agreed. my parents fear tactics were NOT healthy l...agreed. my parents fear tactics were NOT healthy lol. Legit til this day i still 100% fear my father if he gets mad. I'm 24 and I'll still cry like a sappy little baby if he yells at me for whatever reason lol. I don't want it to be like that with my kids. I don't want them flinching at my every little movement. How I discipline my son is definitely not abuse. What my parents did to me was abuse lol. It's not funny but I think some of you ladies get what I mean.Ashley Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01689257066139785285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-64871900918885554692012-09-12T15:03:23.679-07:002012-09-12T15:03:23.679-07:00There are no consequences anymore. I cant tell you...There are no consequences anymore. I cant tell you how many times ive been out to restaurants where kids are standing ON the table, screaming and yelling and the parents are negotiating, pleading and bribing the kids to stop acting like horrors. Parents need to be parents, not friends. I was spanked when I deserved it and you better believe I had a healthy fear of my parents and other authority figures... and my daughter will too.Valerienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-35677265444568136252012-09-12T14:39:09.198-07:002012-09-12T14:39:09.198-07:00They don't fear. Maybe they should fear the co...They don't fear. Maybe they should fear the consequence.Kristinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-77901988216791043252012-09-12T14:38:33.839-07:002012-09-12T14:38:33.839-07:00I think it is crazy to ban spanking. It is the par...I think it is crazy to ban spanking. It is the parents choice. I was spanked and turned out well and respectful. IMO kids are much more worse behaved now than I have ever seen. Is that b/c less are spanked? I don't know, but sure is coincidental. Discipline, no matter how you do it needs to be consistent, that is the key.Debnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-20507011059850016682012-09-12T14:38:06.378-07:002012-09-12T14:38:06.378-07:00Honestly I believe the police really just deal w t...Honestly I believe the police really just deal w the cases that need to be dealt with. If your child was about to run in front of a moving car and you grabbed them and spanked their butt, and you got reported, I'm sure you wouldn't be standing in court for spanking. That's my understanding anyway.Kristinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-64741957830287885882012-09-12T14:27:54.684-07:002012-09-12T14:27:54.684-07:00that's interesting btw. never knew some places...that's interesting btw. never knew some places already ban spanking. i wonder what alternative methods they use or i'd like to see the difference in children's personalities and attitudes compared to here hehe. i'm curious now if it truly is that drastic of a change banned or not.Ashley Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01689257066139785285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-44554425641571971002012-09-12T14:25:19.175-07:002012-09-12T14:25:19.175-07:00I have only lived here for 2 years but I don't...I have only lived here for 2 years but I don't think it was always like that. Not sure, but I think it's crazy.Kristinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-59597595731155230102012-09-12T14:21:05.922-07:002012-09-12T14:21:05.922-07:00How do you feel about it being banned? Has it alwa...How do you feel about it being banned? Has it always been like that or have you ever grown up being spanked?Ashley Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01689257066139785285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-58417954088509079362012-09-12T14:14:18.774-07:002012-09-12T14:14:18.774-07:00Just to chime in...where I live in new Zealand, sp...Just to chime in...where I live in new Zealand, spanking is against the law. So, in some places, it is already banned.Kristinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-67862548423664128162012-09-12T14:04:07.608-07:002012-09-12T14:04:07.608-07:00I was spanked, and I am fine =D However, I do have...I was spanked, and I am fine =D However, I do have negative memories and associations with it.<br /><br />Made the decision to raise my kids spanking free. It's challenging to do it, but there are alternatives. It's all about how committed parents are to maintaining patience and being consistent.Gaylanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-44827664995962403342012-09-12T09:52:01.693-07:002012-09-12T09:52:01.693-07:00I guess the part I don't agree w/ is that ther...I guess the part I don't agree w/ is that there's a gray area - I think a parent knows when they've crossed the line past discipline. I think it's great if u don't ever need to spank ur child as long as they're effectively being disciplined somehow, which I see a lot of parents fail to do. Bekanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-29525625963285275672012-09-12T09:20:26.161-07:002012-09-12T09:20:26.161-07:00I think all kids and parents are different so its ...I think all kids and parents are different so its so hard to say/judge what others might do. My husband and I were both spanked and we have no issues from it so ...Jessicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-79989831690076259062012-09-12T09:09:12.619-07:002012-09-12T09:09:12.619-07:00Yea like I said this is where I go back and forth ...Yea like I said this is where I go back and forth with the situation. I try other methods and sometimes my son doesn't respond to anything but the spanking. I'm definitely open to alternative methods if course but i'm not one to just brush off bad behaviorAshley Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01689257066139785285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-27222233214670400452012-09-12T09:06:50.002-07:002012-09-12T09:06:50.002-07:00They're saying that spanking is too gray an ar...They're saying that spanking is too gray an area between discipline and abuse. However, I agree with you. To each is own and the law shouldn't step in when it comes to discipline. If you're leaving cuts and bruises on your kids that's clearly abuse.Ashley Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01689257066139785285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-48054619595660353132012-09-12T09:05:28.683-07:002012-09-12T09:05:28.683-07:00I haven't had to spank my daughter (who is 5 n...I haven't had to spank my daughter (who is 5 now) but I have seen some kids that probably need spanked, who knows, maybe they just need better parenting.Jessicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-67696492266298961752012-09-12T08:34:07.302-07:002012-09-12T08:34:07.302-07:00I think it's absurd that spanking could be ban...I think it's absurd that spanking could be banned - noone has the right to tell parents how they can discipline their children! Each child is different, and so this may be an effective method of discipline for some in certain situations.Bekanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-43346156057877552772012-09-12T08:31:22.649-07:002012-09-12T08:31:22.649-07:00To spank but only sometimes, sometimes you need to...To spank but only sometimes, sometimes you need to get their attention or you'll be yelling to much, or be too soft. Either way messes with the kid in the long way no to mention the bible says if you spare the rod you spoil the child and the tod of correction drives foolishness away. You can actually google it. That's why I live the bible, in times of indecision, the HOLY SPIRIT minds you of scriptures you read and I'm telling you, it talks about EVERYTHING!!!!Faithhttp://nosueme.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4211716445849382819.post-58486358022285440592012-09-12T08:28:20.572-07:002012-09-12T08:28:20.572-07:00I agree with the article..i don't think there&...I agree with the article..i don't think there's anything wrong with spanking..especially when the child acts outJasminenoreply@blogger.com